Why Are You Cast Down, O My Soul?

  Last summer when Goldie was born we saw God use the blog for his glory in so many ways, we received emails everyday of amazing stories of praise to Him and I felt in that time like why would I ever share anything not completely glorifying Him, posts that would lead someone to feel anything but encouraged about themselves. Leave them wanting something they don’t need or comparing themselves to others. But as the months passed I grew more and more okay with it. Even the years before all of that this place used to be my journal, to share the aches of my heart, the verses that were speaking to me, the way God’s been moving, and to connect with people. I really miss that. I’ve felt distracted by the business of it, the formula of it, and lost sight of what I love about it. I will always love and share about fashion, home decor, and all those fun things, but they aren’t what is at the core of me. They don’t satisfy any piece of me and I don’t want anyone to think otherwise. 

For the past few months social media has been sitting uncomfortably with me. The burden of it and my convictions about it were laying so heavily on me that I was ready to call it quits. We took time to pray & fast over the decision and our time ended with an encouraging push to stick with it. I carried on working on posts and taking more steps in this business that is so deeply intertwined with my personal life. 

The point of this is not to complain or bite the hand that feeds me, but just to be honest about how I feel because I know I’m not the only that struggles with these things. As I once again came home last night, sat at the kitchen island and talked to David with tears in my eyes about how I can’t handle it. I can’t take trying to make my life look pretty and sell people on it anymore, and once again he encouraged me, he didn’t think it was time to walk away yet and something in me agreed. Reminded me that the beauty of this job is that there aren’t rules. No one set the standards in front of me that I hold myself to daily.

This morning when I woke up to do my devotions I read Psalm 42. Which is the Psalm that this song is about and each lyric couldn’t have rung more true to my feelings right now. 

Thank you for listening to me word-vomit all my thoughts, I suspect I’m not the only one sick of holding themselves to a silly standard. The time has come to let myself off the hook, to find the balance again of putting what really matters to me into this blog amongst the fashion and lifestyle posts and feel good enough again. I’m so sick of setting unrealistic standards for myself and I don’t want to do that to anyone else either. So, back to honesty & real life and please can we delete #goals from our vocabulary! 

29 Comments

  1. Cole Everi
    July 4, 2016 / 8:31 pm

    This is the best post yet! Completely agree and this is the kind of truth people need to read, especially with someone like you who has such a great platform to share these thoughts with! God is the center of all things and speaking the truth totally glorifies him! Thank you for posting this! And just know, we all whether a blogger, social media star or regular person feel this way and tend to lose sight of what’s important and not to be so hard on ourselves! God bless you!

  2. Sarah Booth
    July 4, 2016 / 8:56 pm

    your honesty, humility, and tender love for God are so encouraging. love ya girl!

  3. July 4, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Your post is incredibly encouraging and I see so much of God’s love for you in the way he convicts your heart. That doesn’t come apart from the Spirit! I struggle with the exact same thing and often come to my husband with tears in my eyes. At our core we were made to enjoy and long for beauty. I think that’s why we spend so much energy trying to find it and create it. But there is no beauty apart from Jesus and to chase after anything else is as exhausting as chasing the wind. I know because I try so often! A couple of truths I remind myself of when I start to feel like what’s the point in pursing art or creativity or career. Anything that is not Jesus is creation. Worshiping Jesus for his creation, being thankful for it and appreciating it, is good. Therefore, I can enjoy beauty as long as the order of my affections is not misplaced. Also, I remind myself often that Jesus is my "measuring stick" when comparison starts to eat away at my heart and leave me feeling inadequate. Everything else one can measure oneself by falls terribly short. Keep creating/journaling/mothering unto the glory of God as you have been; I’m looking forwards to reading along!

  4. July 4, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Your post is incredibly encouraging and I see so much of God’s love for you in the way he convicts your heart. That doesn’t come apart from the Spirit! I struggle with the exact same thing and often come to my husband with tears in my eyes. At our core we were made to enjoy and long for beauty. I think that’s why we spend so much energy trying to find it and create it. But there is no beauty apart from Jesus and to chase after anything else is as exhausting as chasing the wind. I know because I try so often! A couple of truths I remind myself of when I start to feel like what’s the point in pursing art or creativity or career. Anything that is not Jesus is creation. Worshiping Jesus for his creation, being thankful for it and appreciating it, is good. Therefore, I can enjoy beauty as long as the order of my affections is not misplaced. Also, I remind myself often that Jesus is my "measuring stick" when comparison starts to eat away at my heart and leave me feeling inadequate. Everything else one can measure oneself by falls terribly short. Keep creating/journaling/mothering unto the glory of God as you have been; I’m looking forwards to reading along!

  5. July 4, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Your post is incredibly encouraging and I see so much of God’s love for you in the way he convicts your heart. That doesn’t come apart from the Spirit! I struggle with the exact same thing and often come to my husband with tears in my eyes. At our core we were made to enjoy and long for beauty. I think that’s why we spend so much energy trying to find it and create it. But there is no beauty apart from Jesus and to chase after anything else is as exhausting as chasing the wind. I know because I try so often! A couple of truths I remind myself of when I start to feel like what’s the point in pursing art or creativity or career. Anything that is not Jesus is creation. Worshiping Jesus for his creation, being thankful for it and appreciating it, is good. Therefore, I can enjoy beauty as long as the order of my affections is not misplaced. Also, I remind myself often that Jesus is my "measuring stick" when comparison starts to eat away at my heart and leave me feeling inadequate. Everything else one can measure oneself by falls terribly short. Keep creating/journaling/mothering unto the glory of God as you have been; I’m looking forwards to reading along!

  6. colourandcinema@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 9:33 pm

    I totally agree about #goals! #relationshipgoals in particular just drives me crazy!!

    Bethany, thanks for sharing your life in such an honest way. You have a beautiful family and home, but life obviously isn’t perfect because nobody’s life is perfect! Sometimes when I see bloggers such as yourself with lovely feeds and blogs I wonder how exhausting it must feel to present yourself in a certain light online… thank you for being so real about what it can really be like behind the camera. Someone close to me is "insta famous" because of all of his outdoor posts and we were JUST chatting about how damaging it can feel in one’s private life when followers have certain expectations of their public lives… how easy it is to feel like we need to curate our lives for social media or feel like we don’t measure up when the likes and comments are low, or how easy it is to feel like a walking advertisement instead of someone who is just sharing life online.

    One thing I really appreciate about you is how open you were last summer with everything that happened with Goldie. I read through those comments too and loved how many people you impacted! I’m a youth pastor (I actually know your in laws from camp connections!) and I shared your story with my youth when I was preaching about dealing with tough stuff. Know that you are a shining light online and beyond even when it doesn’t feel that way!!

    I would LOVE to see more of this raw and real side of you on your blog. It’s been encouraging to me to see you write about your faith, and would love to read about things like that – even your devotionals would be cool to hear about if you use a plan or have tips for others trying to be most consistent with devotionals. Know that I am praying for you especially when the blog feels more like a burden than a blessing!

    Love Amanda

  7. colourandcinema@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 9:33 pm

    I totally agree about #goals! #relationshipgoals in particular just drives me crazy!!

    Bethany, thanks for sharing your life in such an honest way. You have a beautiful family and home, but life obviously isn’t perfect because nobody’s life is perfect! Sometimes when I see bloggers such as yourself with lovely feeds and blogs I wonder how exhausting it must feel to present yourself in a certain light online… thank you for being so real about what it can really be like behind the camera. Someone close to me is "insta famous" because of all of his outdoor posts and we were JUST chatting about how damaging it can feel in one’s private life when followers have certain expectations of their public lives… how easy it is to feel like we need to curate our lives for social media or feel like we don’t measure up when the likes and comments are low, or how easy it is to feel like a walking advertisement instead of someone who is just sharing life online.

    One thing I really appreciate about you is how open you were last summer with everything that happened with Goldie. I read through those comments too and loved how many people you impacted! I’m a youth pastor (I actually know your in laws from camp connections!) and I shared your story with my youth when I was preaching about dealing with tough stuff. Know that you are a shining light online and beyond even when it doesn’t feel that way!!

    I would LOVE to see more of this raw and real side of you on your blog. It’s been encouraging to me to see you write about your faith, and would love to read about things like that – even your devotionals would be cool to hear about if you use a plan or have tips for others trying to be most consistent with devotionals. Know that I am praying for you especially when the blog feels more like a burden than a blessing!

    Love Amanda

  8. colourandcinema@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 9:33 pm

    I totally agree about #goals! #relationshipgoals in particular just drives me crazy!!

    Bethany, thanks for sharing your life in such an honest way. You have a beautiful family and home, but life obviously isn’t perfect because nobody’s life is perfect! Sometimes when I see bloggers such as yourself with lovely feeds and blogs I wonder how exhausting it must feel to present yourself in a certain light online… thank you for being so real about what it can really be like behind the camera. Someone close to me is "insta famous" because of all of his outdoor posts and we were JUST chatting about how damaging it can feel in one’s private life when followers have certain expectations of their public lives… how easy it is to feel like we need to curate our lives for social media or feel like we don’t measure up when the likes and comments are low, or how easy it is to feel like a walking advertisement instead of someone who is just sharing life online.

    One thing I really appreciate about you is how open you were last summer with everything that happened with Goldie. I read through those comments too and loved how many people you impacted! I’m a youth pastor (I actually know your in laws from camp connections!) and I shared your story with my youth when I was preaching about dealing with tough stuff. Know that you are a shining light online and beyond even when it doesn’t feel that way!!

    I would LOVE to see more of this raw and real side of you on your blog. It’s been encouraging to me to see you write about your faith, and would love to read about things like that – even your devotionals would be cool to hear about if you use a plan or have tips for others trying to be most consistent with devotionals. Know that I am praying for you especially when the blog feels more like a burden than a blessing!

    Love Amanda

  9. chanel.l.carson@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 10:32 pm

    Thanks for being so honest and open girl! I love seeing you and your family glorify God in all that you do. It encourages me daily! Thanks for that 🙂

  10. chanel.l.carson@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 10:32 pm

    Thanks for being so honest and open girl! I love seeing you and your family glorify God in all that you do. It encourages me daily! Thanks for that 🙂

  11. chanel.l.carson@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 10:32 pm

    Thanks for being so honest and open girl! I love seeing you and your family glorify God in all that you do. It encourages me daily! Thanks for that 🙂

  12. justinerebeccamcjenzie@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 11:19 pm

    Fav post.

  13. justinerebeccamcjenzie@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 11:19 pm

    Fav post.

  14. justinerebeccamcjenzie@gmail.com
    July 4, 2016 / 11:19 pm

    Fav post.

  15. July 4, 2016 / 11:28 pm

    Yes yes yes!! I’ve been feeling the same way!! Thank you for sharing!

  16. Laura
    July 5, 2016 / 2:20 am

    Thank you for this. Honestly, it’s so hard to look at all these social media lives and not feel envy or like your completely flawed. I appreciate your honestly and gentle reminder that it’s not all perfect, like it seems. All the best to you and your journey

  17. steffany.wilk@gmail.com
    July 5, 2016 / 2:37 am

    Amen! These sweet, honest words are what my soul needed. Envy is a hard devil to beat and nearly impossible to overcome in this world that rarely portrays anything other than perfection. Having grace on ourselves and loving the imperfect and messy is my only #goal for this year.

    Thank you for sharing your lovely, perfectly imperfect family with us!

  18. steffany.wilk@gmail.com
    July 5, 2016 / 2:37 am

    Amen! These sweet, honest words are what my soul needed. Envy is a hard devil to beat and nearly impossible to overcome in this world that rarely portrays anything other than perfection. Having grace on ourselves and loving the imperfect and messy is my only #goal for this year.

    Thank you for sharing your lovely, perfectly imperfect family with us!

  19. steffany.wilk@gmail.com
    July 5, 2016 / 2:37 am

    Amen! These sweet, honest words are what my soul needed. Envy is a hard devil to beat and nearly impossible to overcome in this world that rarely portrays anything other than perfection. Having grace on ourselves and loving the imperfect and messy is my only #goal for this year.

    Thank you for sharing your lovely, perfectly imperfect family with us!

  20. July 5, 2016 / 5:10 am

    Wow, thank you for being so honest Bethany! May God continue to work in amazing ways through you and your online space. You inspire me — keep it up! 🙂

  21. July 5, 2016 / 5:10 am

    Wow, thank you for being so honest Bethany! May God continue to work in amazing ways through you and your online space. You inspire me — keep it up! 🙂

  22. July 5, 2016 / 5:10 am

    Wow, thank you for being so honest Bethany! May God continue to work in amazing ways through you and your online space. You inspire me — keep it up! 🙂

  23. B
    July 5, 2016 / 8:41 am

    Bethany! What beautiful and honest words – thank you! I hear God speaking to me in this and I’m so encouraged that I’m not alone!

  24. July 5, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    This post came exactly when I needed it Bethany! Thank you for sharing this – and for encouraging the rest of us (or maybe just me!) who feels like my IG isn’t "good enough" and my life isn’t "pretty enough." Satan feeds us such lies to get our eyes off of what really matters! Working on and having a good/pretty social media is not a wrong thing at all, but when you let it control your life as it can so easily do, it can become another darn idol. And I know I don’t need another one of those in my life! Your words spoke to my heart and I am truly grateful.

  25. July 5, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    This post came exactly when I needed it Bethany! Thank you for sharing this – and for encouraging the rest of us (or maybe just me!) who feels like my IG isn’t "good enough" and my life isn’t "pretty enough." Satan feeds us such lies to get our eyes off of what really matters! Working on and having a good/pretty social media is not a wrong thing at all, but when you let it control your life as it can so easily do, it can become another darn idol. And I know I don’t need another one of those in my life! Your words spoke to my heart and I am truly grateful.

  26. July 5, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    This post came exactly when I needed it Bethany! Thank you for sharing this – and for encouraging the rest of us (or maybe just me!) who feels like my IG isn’t "good enough" and my life isn’t "pretty enough." Satan feeds us such lies to get our eyes off of what really matters! Working on and having a good/pretty social media is not a wrong thing at all, but when you let it control your life as it can so easily do, it can become another darn idol. And I know I don’t need another one of those in my life! Your words spoke to my heart and I am truly grateful.

  27. Laura Marazzi
    July 5, 2016 / 3:44 pm

    Thank you for this wonderful post! You honesty is refreshing and always very much needed.
    May God bless you as you continue to blog.

  28. Jenna Liesch
    July 5, 2016 / 9:05 pm

    Bethany you are an inspiration in every area! I’m walking a new journey this summer and have thought of you lots- have been in the hospital now 2 weeks, with my 4th baby, and we are now at 24 weeks- hoping for much longer. Having meetings with the neonatologist has me reminded of sweet Goldie and the glory you have to Jesus through it all. We lost a baby at 16 weeks back in December and now this, and I’ve decided to also start a blog (I’m scared!!) to keep people updated with the journey. I’m THANKFUL for you and how you’ve done what is not easy, and how you’ve shared really beautiful things too. I hope to be an encouragement to others too!!! All this to say…. I’m glad you are continuing!!! Xoxo

  29. naomihessphotography@gmail.com
    July 5, 2016 / 10:17 pm

    Thanks for sharing. It brought me to tears, at least knowing, I am not alone in my current tension with social media. I LOVE IG! I love the creative outlets and inspiration I find there. I love sharing bits of my heart too. But lately Ive felt all torn up inside asking do I want to keep going? Should I take a break? To what end or purpose do I use it? I felt this pressure like "I have to…" find the formula. Post x number of times a day. Muster something up. When inside I’m feeling like I going through all this rewiring. So I guess to make this short, reading "there is no rules" reminded me of an important truth, and I was able to take a breathe about it all. So thanks again for sharing.

  30. naomihessphotography@gmail.com
    July 5, 2016 / 10:17 pm

    Thanks for sharing. It brought me to tears, at least knowing, I am not alone in my current tension with social media. I LOVE IG! I love the creative outlets and inspiration I find there. I love sharing bits of my heart too. But lately Ive felt all torn up inside asking do I want to keep going? Should I take a break? To what end or purpose do I use it? I felt this pressure like "I have to…" find the formula. Post x number of times a day. Muster something up. When inside I’m feeling like I going through all this rewiring. So I guess to make this short, reading "there is no rules" reminded me of an important truth, and I was able to take a breathe about it all. So thanks again for sharing.

  31. naomihessphotography@gmail.com
    July 5, 2016 / 10:17 pm

    Thanks for sharing. It brought me to tears, at least knowing, I am not alone in my current tension with social media. I LOVE IG! I love the creative outlets and inspiration I find there. I love sharing bits of my heart too. But lately Ive felt all torn up inside asking do I want to keep going? Should I take a break? To what end or purpose do I use it? I felt this pressure like "I have to…" find the formula. Post x number of times a day. Muster something up. When inside I’m feeling like I going through all this rewiring. So I guess to make this short, reading "there is no rules" reminded me of an important truth, and I was able to take a breathe about it all. So thanks again for sharing.

  32. Caroline
    July 6, 2016 / 2:29 am

    Speaking to my heart and my current feelings lately. Keep sharing the real stuff, it’s the best stuff and it’s always pretty enough, it’s life

  33. laurenrehbein@gmail.com
    July 6, 2016 / 3:35 pm

    The honesty that you put out there for all of us to read is refreshing. It makes us see and realize that while things may look "perfect" from a social media stand-point, but in the behind-the-scenes you’re a real person just like us who are on the outside looking in. You inspire me. You’re simplicity, honesty, and beauty give me something to look up too. Like you said, we need to change our own mindsets to not compare ourselves to one another and not to hold ourselves up to this invisible standard. We need to be real and honest, and be who God created us all to be, a loving vessel.

  34. laurenrehbein@gmail.com
    July 6, 2016 / 3:35 pm

    The honesty that you put out there for all of us to read is refreshing. It makes us see and realize that while things may look "perfect" from a social media stand-point, but in the behind-the-scenes you’re a real person just like us who are on the outside looking in. You inspire me. You’re simplicity, honesty, and beauty give me something to look up too. Like you said, we need to change our own mindsets to not compare ourselves to one another and not to hold ourselves up to this invisible standard. We need to be real and honest, and be who God created us all to be, a loving vessel.

  35. laurenrehbein@gmail.com
    July 6, 2016 / 3:35 pm

    The honesty that you put out there for all of us to read is refreshing. It makes us see and realize that while things may look "perfect" from a social media stand-point, but in the behind-the-scenes you’re a real person just like us who are on the outside looking in. You inspire me. You’re simplicity, honesty, and beauty give me something to look up too. Like you said, we need to change our own mindsets to not compare ourselves to one another and not to hold ourselves up to this invisible standard. We need to be real and honest, and be who God created us all to be, a loving vessel.

  36. Chelsea
    July 6, 2016 / 4:21 pm

    Wow! Incredible words of wisdom. Thanks for sharing your heart.

  37. July 6, 2016 / 9:29 pm

    Dear Bethany,
    I don’t even know when or how I stumbled across you on Instagram, but I remember it was a picture I saw of you when you had your Ombré hair… I liked it and clicked on your name and then there was this beautiful gallery of yours and I became a follower on Instagram. Ever since then I was following along your journey, admired your style, your beautiful family, and felt very moved about all your posts about Goldie Bloom and also thought to myself "wow, what an incredibly tough and brave woman". I think you deserve highest respect for sharing such a personal and deeply hurting story with the world. And it was also because of you and many other amazing woman out there in the www that I made the decision to start my own blog and write about life, because I think it’s such a mic way to get a hold of precious moments otherwise gone way to fast… Why I’m writing this comment now: I’m thankful for social media because otherwise I probably would have never found you, but also I agree so much with you that social media and especially Instagram have a very dark side, too. I think that you are a great role model for young girls and bloggers though, because it seems you’re sharing a part of you and your own personality. I always have the feeling you’re one of the bloggers who don’t only share stuff for personal benefits (cooperations) and to gain more followers.
    Please keep up the good work and keep doing what you love! You’re such a great source of inspiration to me.
    All the best from Austria,
    Nina / http://www.yourockmylife.com

  38. July 6, 2016 / 9:29 pm

    Dear Bethany,
    I don’t even know when or how I stumbled across you on Instagram, but I remember it was a picture I saw of you when you had your Ombré hair… I liked it and clicked on your name and then there was this beautiful gallery of yours and I became a follower on Instagram. Ever since then I was following along your journey, admired your style, your beautiful family, and felt very moved about all your posts about Goldie Bloom and also thought to myself "wow, what an incredibly tough and brave woman". I think you deserve highest respect for sharing such a personal and deeply hurting story with the world. And it was also because of you and many other amazing woman out there in the www that I made the decision to start my own blog and write about life, because I think it’s such a mic way to get a hold of precious moments otherwise gone way to fast… Why I’m writing this comment now: I’m thankful for social media because otherwise I probably would have never found you, but also I agree so much with you that social media and especially Instagram have a very dark side, too. I think that you are a great role model for young girls and bloggers though, because it seems you’re sharing a part of you and your own personality. I always have the feeling you’re one of the bloggers who don’t only share stuff for personal benefits (cooperations) and to gain more followers.
    Please keep up the good work and keep doing what you love! You’re such a great source of inspiration to me.
    All the best from Austria,
    Nina / http://www.yourockmylife.com

  39. July 6, 2016 / 9:29 pm

    Dear Bethany,
    I don’t even know when or how I stumbled across you on Instagram, but I remember it was a picture I saw of you when you had your Ombré hair… I liked it and clicked on your name and then there was this beautiful gallery of yours and I became a follower on Instagram. Ever since then I was following along your journey, admired your style, your beautiful family, and felt very moved about all your posts about Goldie Bloom and also thought to myself "wow, what an incredibly tough and brave woman". I think you deserve highest respect for sharing such a personal and deeply hurting story with the world. And it was also because of you and many other amazing woman out there in the www that I made the decision to start my own blog and write about life, because I think it’s such a mic way to get a hold of precious moments otherwise gone way to fast… Why I’m writing this comment now: I’m thankful for social media because otherwise I probably would have never found you, but also I agree so much with you that social media and especially Instagram have a very dark side, too. I think that you are a great role model for young girls and bloggers though, because it seems you’re sharing a part of you and your own personality. I always have the feeling you’re one of the bloggers who don’t only share stuff for personal benefits (cooperations) and to gain more followers.
    Please keep up the good work and keep doing what you love! You’re such a great source of inspiration to me.
    All the best from Austria,
    Nina / http://www.yourockmylife.com

  40. emu17rutter@gmail.com
    July 7, 2016 / 9:19 am

    I completely understand what you’re saying. I took a break from blogging just over two years ago because I felt disillusioned with the blogging world, but I went back to it a couple of months later. But then after a few months I stopped again because it just didn’t feel like me; I didn’t want to be limited to writing posts about what I’d been cooking or eating when there was so much more to me as a person – when I wanted to write about God, about my feelings and my thoughts. I still haven’t blogged since then though I’m thinking about starting back to it when I move away from home next year. But thanks for sharing – and thanks for keeping going! I love reading all of your posts.

  41. emu17rutter@gmail.com
    July 7, 2016 / 9:19 am

    I completely understand what you’re saying. I took a break from blogging just over two years ago because I felt disillusioned with the blogging world, but I went back to it a couple of months later. But then after a few months I stopped again because it just didn’t feel like me; I didn’t want to be limited to writing posts about what I’d been cooking or eating when there was so much more to me as a person – when I wanted to write about God, about my feelings and my thoughts. I still haven’t blogged since then though I’m thinking about starting back to it when I move away from home next year. But thanks for sharing – and thanks for keeping going! I love reading all of your posts.

  42. emu17rutter@gmail.com
    July 7, 2016 / 9:19 am

    I completely understand what you’re saying. I took a break from blogging just over two years ago because I felt disillusioned with the blogging world, but I went back to it a couple of months later. But then after a few months I stopped again because it just didn’t feel like me; I didn’t want to be limited to writing posts about what I’d been cooking or eating when there was so much more to me as a person – when I wanted to write about God, about my feelings and my thoughts. I still haven’t blogged since then though I’m thinking about starting back to it when I move away from home next year. But thanks for sharing – and thanks for keeping going! I love reading all of your posts.

  43. Constance
    July 8, 2016 / 6:03 pm

    I started following you and reading your blog because you were about simplicity, clothes, contentment, and diy but also tended to your spiritual heart. (A real person!!) I love the balance of all that you share and especially your stories about Goldie and always about Poppy. I’m a fan even though much older than you with children and grandgirlies of my own. One generation shall tell the other about God’s work and in my world it often is from the mouths of babes and young women that I am encouraged. Telling your stories from all aspects which are uniquely yours. Thank you. You are courageous and full of a beautiful vigor. Keep posting!

  44. July 12, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    I love your blog, one of the few that I actually follow. It’s a weird digital world we live in, and it’s so easy to get caught up in it all- I often wonder "does this all really matter" and find myself just wanting to go off the grid. I think you are doing great:)

  45. July 12, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    I love your blog, one of the few that I actually follow. It’s a weird digital world we live in, and it’s so easy to get caught up in it all- I often wonder "does this all really matter" and find myself just wanting to go off the grid. I think you are doing great:)

  46. July 12, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    I love your blog, one of the few that I actually follow. It’s a weird digital world we live in, and it’s so easy to get caught up in it all- I often wonder "does this all really matter" and find myself just wanting to go off the grid. I think you are doing great:)

  47. Meg
    July 14, 2016 / 5:53 pm

    Today you are leaving social media, tomorrow joining snap chat?? What!?

    • thisonesforyoublog@gmail.com
      July 14, 2016 / 7:46 pm

      It’s not about how involved or not involved I am on social media, it’s about the role I take in it, what I chose to stand for and being authentic in it.

  48. coby.behnke@gmail.com
    July 19, 2016 / 6:45 pm

    Hi Bethany!

    I’ve been following you for awhile, but (like Poppy) I’m kind of shy and haven’t commented on anything yet. I found your blog via a mutual friend, I graduated with Shanna Albrecht from Kelowna Christian School. I currently live in Tofino, BC, so I can relate to all your West Coast weather perils! I love all things fashion, beauty, and lifestyle, and I often envy "established" bloggers like you who have this big following and take beautiful pictures and seem to have the perfect life. Hearing you share the other side of that and your struggles is so wonderful to hear! I know that no one has the perfect life, but sometimes thats hard to believe when you see these perfect social media posts. I think your desire to not leave your readers anything less than content with their life as it is is soooo admirable. Keep it up! And if you and David and Poppy ever want to come to Tofino, you’re welcome to stay with my husband and I! I know that sounds crazy cause we’ve never met, but the world is so small, we know the same people!

    xoxo,
    Coby

  49. coby.behnke@gmail.com
    July 19, 2016 / 6:45 pm

    Hi Bethany!

    I’ve been following you for awhile, but (like Poppy) I’m kind of shy and haven’t commented on anything yet. I found your blog via a mutual friend, I graduated with Shanna Albrecht from Kelowna Christian School. I currently live in Tofino, BC, so I can relate to all your West Coast weather perils! I love all things fashion, beauty, and lifestyle, and I often envy "established" bloggers like you who have this big following and take beautiful pictures and seem to have the perfect life. Hearing you share the other side of that and your struggles is so wonderful to hear! I know that no one has the perfect life, but sometimes thats hard to believe when you see these perfect social media posts. I think your desire to not leave your readers anything less than content with their life as it is is soooo admirable. Keep it up! And if you and David and Poppy ever want to come to Tofino, you’re welcome to stay with my husband and I! I know that sounds crazy cause we’ve never met, but the world is so small, we know the same people!

    xoxo,
    Coby

  50. coby.behnke@gmail.com
    July 19, 2016 / 6:45 pm

    Hi Bethany!

    I’ve been following you for awhile, but (like Poppy) I’m kind of shy and haven’t commented on anything yet. I found your blog via a mutual friend, I graduated with Shanna Albrecht from Kelowna Christian School. I currently live in Tofino, BC, so I can relate to all your West Coast weather perils! I love all things fashion, beauty, and lifestyle, and I often envy "established" bloggers like you who have this big following and take beautiful pictures and seem to have the perfect life. Hearing you share the other side of that and your struggles is so wonderful to hear! I know that no one has the perfect life, but sometimes thats hard to believe when you see these perfect social media posts. I think your desire to not leave your readers anything less than content with their life as it is is soooo admirable. Keep it up! And if you and David and Poppy ever want to come to Tofino, you’re welcome to stay with my husband and I! I know that sounds crazy cause we’ve never met, but the world is so small, we know the same people!

    xoxo,
    Coby

  51. Lauren
    July 23, 2016 / 7:00 pm

    Wow, thank you so much for writing this! So many times I see yours and other fashion bloggers instragrams and it does make me feel bad about myself and think "why can’t I have it together like that?" I don’t say that to make you feel bad but just to thank you for being honest about how what you do does take a lot of work and a lot of effort to make such a beautiful blog/instagram. Thanks for letting us in on the real you-it helps us girls who wish we could be a little bit more like you or any other gorgeous corky fashion blogger realize that we are a lot more similar than we thought.

  52. cooper9133@mail.philau.edu
    July 31, 2016 / 10:46 pm

    Bethany, I have been following you for two years now and have come to truly admire you and look up to you, not only for your great style and beautiful family, but for your deep faith and perseverance. Thank you so much for opening up with this post. I think it is so important for people to realize, myself included, that life isn’t about being perfect. I recently read a quote by Emily Ley that says, "Hold yourself to a standard of Grace and not Perfection." I also struggle with holding myself to unrealistic standards. Life isn’t perfect and I think the most beautiful moments are the "imperfect" ones. Keep leaning on God for his guidance and remember that your worth is with Him, and not with societal standards <3

  53. cooper9133@mail.philau.edu
    July 31, 2016 / 10:46 pm

    Bethany, I have been following you for two years now and have come to truly admire you and look up to you, not only for your great style and beautiful family, but for your deep faith and perseverance. Thank you so much for opening up with this post. I think it is so important for people to realize, myself included, that life isn’t about being perfect. I recently read a quote by Emily Ley that says, "Hold yourself to a standard of Grace and not Perfection." I also struggle with holding myself to unrealistic standards. Life isn’t perfect and I think the most beautiful moments are the "imperfect" ones. Keep leaning on God for his guidance and remember that your worth is with Him, and not with societal standards <3

  54. cooper9133@mail.philau.edu
    July 31, 2016 / 10:46 pm

    Bethany, I have been following you for two years now and have come to truly admire you and look up to you, not only for your great style and beautiful family, but for your deep faith and perseverance. Thank you so much for opening up with this post. I think it is so important for people to realize, myself included, that life isn’t about being perfect. I recently read a quote by Emily Ley that says, "Hold yourself to a standard of Grace and not Perfection." I also struggle with holding myself to unrealistic standards. Life isn’t perfect and I think the most beautiful moments are the "imperfect" ones. Keep leaning on God for his guidance and remember that your worth is with Him, and not with societal standards <3

  55. Rebecca
    October 7, 2016 / 5:09 pm

    You’ve always had a very genuine presence on social media. You are gifted in your ability to make things beautiful, but your authentic personality really does shine through every post. And the fact that you hold it so loosely in your hand, ready to give it up if it doesn’t sit right with your convictions shows even more that you keep it in it’s correct place in your life. I appreciate your blog and instagram, and have so much respect for posts like this! Thank you for your honesty, it’s a good reminder for all of us!

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